Sigh, Males.

I have a problem bugging me right now, that most of the female population in a relationship have, at least in North America. Well I guess I can't speak for North America, just Northern California. I haven't explored enough to think that this stupid habit that is bothering me is shared by the males of all the U.S.

Is there a name for chronic ... not-doing-what-one-says? A psychobabble, technical term that sounds like a gruesome disease that would make me feel better? I'll call it... fudge. Because I'm not creative, and all that comes to mind are cuss words. Grant fudges constantly. It is the default action to any time I ask a question like,

"When will you be home? How long are you going to take? I don't care when or how long, I just would like an estimate."

Response: "Probably x hours."

x.5 hours later: "Hey what are you doing?"

"..."

"You haven't left yet?"

"No, I'll leave in about an hour?"

"Whatever. Talk to you later."

My responses increase slowly in hostility until tonight. Tonight, I told him not to bother coming back. I will admit, most of me wants him to come up anyways and make everything better, give me the 30th promise that he'll keep his word from now on. In each of these dilemmas, I tell him not to give me an estimate he won't keep any more. The cycle repeats.

When this happens once, it is not a big deal. When it happens 10x, I consider it "not keeping one's word". Because of this cycle, the rest of me hopes that after we spend a night apart in anger, he'll realize when I say, "This bullshit matters to me. I don't like getting upset over bullshit. So stop bullshitting me." I mean it.

I think it was the last fight we had, that he scrawled himself a note. It said, "When I say I will call her, DO IT". Apparently it was too vague a note to remember the obligations he spews out at me.

Sigh... writing is supposed to make you feel better but it's not working, because I already know the results of this fight. It will be the same of every one of these tiffs. After much misery on my part, I'll give in and forgive him, because I'm tired of being miserable. He gets what he wants, and does it again the next day. This is because males don't care about what females feel at this point. All they're thinking is that what we're saying doesn't make any sense, and therefore they just choose to forget about it. I'm overreacting? Well, after getting his lawn shat on every morning in "Me, Myself and Irene", shitting back may also be called overreacting.